Ina mahi tahi mātou me tētahi waitohu hou i tā rātou takirua hū tāne tuatahi, ko tā mātou whakaaro tuatahi ehara i te "e hia te moni ka taea e mātou te whiwhi mai i tēnei ota?"
He pono? Koinei te mea whakamutunga kei roto i ō mātou hinengaro.
Ko tā mātou e tino aro nui nei ko tēnei: ka āwhina tēnei hu i a koe ki te uru atu ki tō mākete? Ka kukume i ngā marea? Ka meinga ō kaihoko ā muri ake nei kia mutu, ka mea, "E hiahia ana ahau ki ēnā"?
Nā te mea e mōhio ana tō mātou kaiwhakaū ki te āhua o te tīmata mai i te kore. Kāore a LANCI i hangaia i roto i te rā kotahi. Kei te noho ia ki tō tūranga—e moemoeā ana, e ruarua ana, e noho pō ana me te whakaaro mēnā he tika ngā taipitopito katoa. Ā, e mōhio ana ia mō tētahi waitohu hou, ehara te hua tuatahi i te hua noa iho. He whakapuakitanga. Ko tō tuakiri katoa kua kōpeketia ki roto i tētahi takirua hu tāne kua whakaritea.
Nō reira, i mua i tā tātou kōrero mō ngā tau, me pātai atu tātou i ētahi pātai.
Ko wai tō kaihoko? He aha ā rātou kākahu i ngā mutunga wiki? He aha ngā mea e aro nui ana ki a rātou—te whakamarie, te oranga tonutanga, te rongonui o te tiriti, te mahi toi? He aha ngā mea e ngaro ana i roto i ō rātou kākahu i tēnei wā ka whakakīia e ō hu tāne ritenga?
Kāore mātou e pātai i ēnei pātai hei whakakī i tētahi puka. Ka pātai mātou nā te mea ko āu whakautu te mea e hanga ana i ngā mea katoa e whai ake nei mā mātou—te mea whakamutunga, te hiako, te tuitui, te āhua o te āhua. Ko ngā manakohanga a ō kiritaki ka noho hei pukapuka whakaputa mā mātou.
Ko te tuarua o ngā mea e aro nui ana mātou ki a koe: ka hiahia koe ki te hoki mai ki LANCI mō tō ota e whai ake nei?
He pātai mārama pea tēnā. Engari koinei te mea—he maha ngā wheketere e whakaaro ana ki tō ota tuatahi he whakamātautau. Ki te pai te haere, he pai. Ki te kore, ka neke atu rātou ki te kiritaki e whai ake nei. Kāore rātou e wareware ki te heke mai o tō waitohu.
He rerekē tātou.
Ahakoa te iti o tō ota tuatahi mō ngā hū tāne ritenga, e whakaarohia ana e mātou he tīmatanga tēnei o tētahi hononga mahi tahi mō te wā roa.Ehara i te whakawhitiwhitinga. Ehara i te whakamātautau. He mahi tahi.
Arā, ki te kore koe e makona ki te tauira tuatahi? Ka arotakehia tonutia e mātou kia tae rā anō koe ki te kī "āe". Kaua kotahi. Kaua e rua. Kia rite ki te maha o ngā wā e hiahiatia ana. Kāore he utu tāpiri. Kāore he aue pōuri. Me mahi pono noa kia tika rā anō.
Ka puta he hapa i te wā whakaputa? Ka tangohia e mātou te kawenga katoa. Kāore e whakapae i ngā rauemi. Kāore e whakapae i te raina whakaputa. Kāore "kei roto i te whānuitanga e whakaaetia ana." Engari: "I hē mātou. Ka whakatikahia e mātou. Ā, ka whakarite mātou kia kore e puta anō."
Nā te mea, mō tētahi waitohu hou, ko taua takirua hu tāne tuatahi i hangaia kia rite ki ō hiahia te tūāpapa o ngā mea katoa. Koinei te whakaaro tuatahi ka tukuna e koe ki ō kaihoko. Koinei te tohu he pono tō moemoeā. Koinei te taunakitanga ā-tinana e kore koe e moemoeā noa iho—kei te hanga koe.
I LANCI, ka āwhina mātou i a koe ki te whakatakoto i taua turanga kia tika. Mai i te tuhi tuatahi ki te tuitui whakamutunga, kei a koe mātou. Kāore mātou e akiaki i a koe ki ngā rauemi iti ake te utu hei whakapai ake i ā mātou taha. Ka whakarongo mātou. Ka tohutohu mātou. Ka hanga mātou.
Ā, ina mau i a koe taua takirua hū tāne tuatahi i roto i ō ringaringa—ko ērā ka whakarewa i tō waitohu—e hiahia ana mātou kia whakahīhī koe. E hiahia ana mātou kia mōhio koe i whawhaihia ia āhuatanga katoa. E hiahia ana mātou kia rite koe ki tā mātou tiaki i tō hū tuatahi me te mea nō mātou ake.
Nō reira, ki te mea kei te whakarite koe ki te hanga i tō hu tuatahi, me kōrero tāua. Kaua e pā ki te utu—ka tae atu tātou ki tēnā. Kaua e pā ki te iti rawa o ngā ota—ka whakaarohia anō hoki e mātou.
He pai ake kia rongo tuatahi mātou i tō wawata. Mā wai ēnei hu tāne ritenga e hanga? He aha te kōrero e ngana ana koe ki te kōrero? He aha te āhua o te angitu ki a koe?
Kōrerotia mai tēnā, ā, ka hangaia e mātou tētahi mea e tika ana kia whakarewaina.
Kua rite koe ki te tango i taua taahiraa tuatahi?
Whakapā mai ki a LANCI i tēnei rā. Kāore he pēhanga. Kāore he whakatairanga hokohoko. He kōrero noa iho mō tō moemoeā—me pēhea mātou e āwhina ai i a koe ki te huri hei takirua hu tāne ritenga ka kitea e te ao.
Wā tuku: Hurae-30-2026
